A 32-year-old woman had been in a nine-month relationship with her 39-year-old boyfriend, who had two young children, when a serious argument broke out between them.
Seeking advice, she turned to Reddit after becoming frustrated with her boyfriend’s habit of “always forgetting” his wallet whenever they went out to eat, forcing her to pay the bill every time for everyone.
The woman expressed concerns about how her actions might be perceived by his kids. They loved dining out, so it had become a weekly tradition for them. However, each time, her boyfriend “conveniently” forgot his wallet, leaving her to cover the whole table. Initially, it didn’t bother her, but after a month of footing the bill for multiple costly dinners, her finances started to suffer.
One evening, after receiving her paycheck from her second part-time job, they planned another dinner out with his kids. Anticipating the usual scenario, she sent him a reminder to bring his wallet, to which he laughed.
Once at the restaurant, his kids ordered several pricey dishes. Before the food arrived, she asked if he had his wallet with him. He acted surprised, checked his pockets, and said, “I think I left it in my other jeans.”
Frustrated by the situation, the woman decided she’d had enough. She gathered her things and prepared to leave without eating.
Her boyfriend asked her what she was doing, and she told him she wouldn’t be paying for him and his kids anymore. Then she left the restaurant.
Later, her boyfriend called her selfish and accused her of leaving them in a tough spot. He was particularly upset that she hadn’t shown compassion toward him and his kids, who had to cancel their order and go home hungry.
The argument escalated, with him suggesting they might need to reconsider their relationship because of what he saw as her selfish lack of respect toward his children.
Uncertain if she had handled the situation correctly, the woman sought advice to understand whether she had been unfair or if her actions were justified in these circumstances.
